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The good and the bad

Did you ever have a feeling of how good of a parent you are? It’s probably one of the best feelings in the world. Then you probably had the reverse too – the feeling of being the worse parent. In the world, of course.

As my son grows up with each day he tests his boundaries more and more. He is 2 years old and 2 months. He is like a sponge, learns more and more each day. And as a result, I try to give him more room to maneuver.

The art of this is to know when it’s too much or too little room. As you’re reading this you probably get a hint that I don’t always calibrate this in an optimal manner.

As he was little I was a bit overprotecting, maybe that’s why I broke one of my foot nails rushing to save him when he was on the edge of the bed. It was mostly an automatic reaction and I realize just how true are the stories of parents doing insane things to save their kids.

Now that he’s grown up, I started to be more permissive. And since he likes cats so much I had a bad idea of letting him get closer to one that seemed friendly enough.

Animals are unpredictable and in half of a second, the cat had scratched my son’s hand in more than 5 places. They weren’t deep but enough that we have to give him 5 shots of the anti rabies vaccine.

A nice experience can turn into a bad one in less than a second. Both I and my son learned a valuable lesson that day.

Side by side is a book about the first years of parenting. Both the beauty and the hidden side of parenting. The long nights and troubled days. Parents who try and fail and then try again. And how your little one puts a smile on your face and you forget everything just in time to start a new challenging day.  It follows the first 2 years of a new dad and his journey, side by side, along with his son. 

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    1. Yeah, for a while he didn’t even wanna look at cats. Now he starts to like them again. The mind has a mind of its own in remembering the past πŸ™‚


  1. I feel your pain!! It’s just awful when we make a decision, as parents, generally with good intentions and then our child suffers because of it.
    I have four children (really a lot – I know!!), the eldest is 26 now, gulp. So I’ve been in this kind of situation many times over the years. Once, I tried to ‘fix’ my daughter’s headache while on a plane and accidentally poured peppermint oil in her eye. It was really terrible!! But we joke about it now!! I should probably tell you that I am insanely clumsy and for that reason should probably never have been allowed near a child.
    The love you have for your son pours off the ‘page’, that in itself will make you do a great job.

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  2. My daughter is 4 years old, and I completely relate to what you’ve written. I was very over-protective when she was younger but now I allow her to be little independent but still keep a close eye. I sometimes obsess over her eating since she is a frugal eater but feels I should fret less. Hope scratches have healed on your son’s arm!

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    1. Scratches are long gone and he seems to have forgotten all about it. Now he is best friends with his grandparent’s little puppy. I guess we’ll have to keep an eye on them a bit longer. A few years longer πŸ™‚

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  3. It’s good that you recognize the need for a balanced approach as you son grows up! It is hard to watch them go through hard or hurtful things (like with the cat incident), but sometimes the greatest lessons are learned through such moments.
    It sounds like you are off to great start when it comes to parenting you little son. πŸ™‚

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  4. Well. We always try our very best. No one or our selves can say “Good or Bad” can we now? As each Day is different and each child also is different. Only thing from the fist child we learn the Basics on how to be parenting . Which makes a difference the 2nd time around. All the best being a Daddy πŸ™‚

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