My son just turned 3 years old. Feels like just yesterday I was holding him up for the first time and now he’s almost another person.
He learned to salute other people. We might be going to the park and out of nowhere I hear him say “hi kids”. It’s just awesome to see him interact and play with other kids. And then you hear him say “bye kids”. He’s had enough. Time to go home.
Likes to ask “where” questions a lot lately. Where is his toy? Where is his sock? It’s almost like he is asking himself but also he is really happy if you help him find it. More aware of himself and the fact that he can injure himself – while he did have small accidents back in the past, these days he will start crying easier even if he just bumps into something.
He likes to do whatever is on his mind. You can see how that can be a problem. While I do let him choose his activities and a lot of the schedule is on what he wants to do, he is always pushing for more. Until he gets on my nerves. And that’s when the drama begins. Tantrums and crying and whatever he thinks will get him what he needs. And when both me and my wife have had enough, then we know he’s tired and it’s probably time for bed.
On one of these occasions, he just told me something that hit me hard. It went something around the line of: “Daddy stop scolding me. Edy will get upset and he will cry”. What can you say to that? Just plain thoughts in the air. I was speechless. He was just unloading what was in his mind and my mind was trying to process that.
There was a time I changed his diapers. Now it’s the time when he changes my clothes. He has his own idea of what I should wear. He even has a favorite t-shirt for me to wear. It’s a “Walking dad” one and he probably likes it because it has an image of a dad walking a baby.
It takes (only) 1 hour to get him to bed in the evening. He finds all kinds of stuff to postpone going to sleep. From going to the bathroom, asking for water or milk to singing and dancing. By the time he falls asleep, we are too tired to do much more. Soon we’ll follow him into the dreamland.
It’s been a time of firsts – the first time he slept through the whole night. He usually still wakes up at least one time but goes to bed soon after. The first month he went to the daycare without getting sick. The first time he counted to 30. And probably the most important one, the first day he didn’t ask for “mommy milk”. Not sure if it’s definitive but my wife was waiting for this one for quite a while now.
He changed so much in the last months. I am impressed by how quick he learns things and how fast time flies around him. One side of me wants to see more of his innocent side and the other wants to see him become independent. And both sides want to be close to him for a long long time.
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