While I can’t really remember where I heard this first, after looking it up it seems to have Persian origins. Like plenty of other stuff, it kind of stuck in my head and it had mutated into something like this:
Are you sad or tired? Don't worry this shall pass. Better days will come when you will be happy and everything will be fine. But don't worry, that too shall pass.
In a nutshell, it describes how I feel like a parent. The above can happen as the child goes through different stages of development. It can relate to a stage. Or it can happen even a few times a day if he’s sick or just plainly having a bad day.
“Where are you?!!??!” – everything was silent and out of nowhere, I hear my son screaming at the toys he cannot find. And that’s how you get back from meditating about parenthood. He is half-dead-serious and half-laughingly so I think he also realizes he’s exaggerating a bit with his screams. But that’s what he likes to do these days at the age of 3 years and 1 month.
Another thing he likes to do is the “train of why questions”. Each answer I give to a “why question” is followed by another why question? Like a never-ending train. Usually, it stops after 5-10 why questions, and then I’m not really sure he is content with the answer.
He keeps on saying how much he likes to do things using numbers. What changed is the biggest number, it’s no longer 10 but 100. Not sure where he found out about it but even stranger that he asked me what’s bigger than 100. I reply with infinite but that’s probably not something he will understand at this stage. Next time I will go with 1000.
He is more attuned to what he likes and doesn’t like. What he wants and doesn’t want. And he likes to tell me all about it. So he will tell me he wants to go outside or to the shop. And then he will get close to my ear almost as to give me a hug and a kiss. And then he will whisper close to my skin, almost kissing me, what he wants. And then he makes sure I understood: “Aham, This is what I want. Aham” in an excited voice.
Where did he learn all this stuff? And why didn’t I know about this method? It’s so good and it works so often. I should try it on my wife a few times. I’m sure it will work if I do it right. Right? Righhht.
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