My son is almost 3 years and 3 months old. As he is growing, so are his interests. And you have guessed it – disinterests. Lately, he has embraced NO as his favorite word. No to going to kindergarten, No to eating, No to going outside. No to sleeping. And when asked why we get all kinds of excuses. The most common one is “it’s not convenient”. A fancy word for “I don’t want to”. Mind blown.
And there is little we can do to change his mind. If we insist, crocodile tears are ready to come out. I hope it’s just a temporary phase as it’s stretching our nerves to the max. I understand his need to say no to some things. But it’s not that… it’s just his way of exercising his independence and getting attention.
Be wary about setting rules. Of course, he will not listen to them. But he might surprise you one day by reminding you about the rule you told him days ago. And he’s expecting “you” to respect the rule.
Talk about a backfire.
The same goes with buying toys appropriate for his age. I used to tell him that some of the toys are for older or younger kids. He soon understood that 3+ are OK for him and now is searching for them especially. So I can’t tell him that toys are for other kids anymore… Well, I can but it won’t work anymore.
Small tantrums. I can deal with those. But these are something else. Total meltdowns and rivers of tears. Even for small things. My brain can’t understand them, but my heart reminds me he’s just a small kid that probably doesn’t understand what’s going on either.
I feel like all my life I have been preparing for these moments. I’m a patient man (not to brag but it’s the truth) but he is tirelessly pushing the boundaries and has what seems to be never-ending energy and ambition. All I have is coffee and a keyboard. To put my thoughts in order. Before a new round starts.
What about you? How do you deal with tantrums, never-ending questions, and NOOOOOs?
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